Entering the world of infertility can be downright depressing. When the journey to have a baby first starts, it is filled with so much promise and hope. However, month after disappointing month eats away at that hope like cancer until you feel like you are holding on by a hang-nail to these miniscule odds.
I’ve been waiting for a while to share this story, and no, it’s not about me. Long before I was TTC – before I was even married, a good friend of mine named Nicole started on this journey before I did.
Nicole and her husband Matt started trying-not-trying back in August of 2007, almost 7 years ago. After a year of nothing, they began to ‘really try’ in May 2008. After not getting the coveted BFP for almost a year, they started to see an infertility specialist in April 2009, almost two years later.
During the months of June – August 2009, Nicole had 4 IUIs – 1 with just Ovidrel (because of an ovarian cyst) and 3 with both Ovidrel and Clomid.
Now, it’s important to note that, all along the way, she had been prayed for and words were spoken over her from God about how she would conceive a ‘blessed generation’ (that exact phrase -twice!). Still, the results along the way showed no evidence of this ‘promise.’
Later that year in 2009, her husband saw a urologist and was diagnosed with vericocele. He had surgery to correct this, but even with that, they still were unable to conceive.
In the winter of 2010, several people told Nicole about NaPro technology, and she really felt like that was an answer to prayer. THIS was how God was going to get her pregnant. In June, she started trekking into NYC to go to this fertility center.
In September 2010, Nicole had to had laparoscopic surgery for endometriosis, but instead of Nicole getting pregnant, she found out her younger sister Kim was pregnant. As you can imagine, this bittersweet news brought on a crazy mix of emotion. We all know how that feels – happy but at the same time, ‘God, why not me??’ Nicole says it was one of the hardest things she went through when TTC. Hitting the bottom.
However, God kept encouraging her along the way…sermons she would hear in the car, words God had given to friends and others for her…all with the promise that she would conceive – and not only that…her child would be a world-changer. All encouraging her to trust God and His timing.
Along rolls 2011, and their course of treatment included her husband taking Proxceed. In the meantime, for the next 6 months, Nicole had acupuncture every week. During this time, Nicole had hcG estrogen shots, and her husband was retested. It turned out that there wasn’t much change from before the surgery and the 3 months of Proxceed. A month later, her husband was tested again, and this time, results were normal.
By this point, it is summer in 2011. They missed a month of possible TTC because Nicole’s shots didn’t come in time AND lengthy and annoying battle with Aetna. Nicole finally got her shots and continued them for another 3 months.
By the time 2011 ended….still no pregnancy. Over 4 years of trying and not one positive pregnancy test.
At this point, there was no other option but IVF, and her insurance didn’t cover it. And it was at this point that Nicole and Matt decided to stop doctor visits, medications, fertility cleanses (yes, they did a bunch of those as well…).
Her family was crushed to see Nicole and Matt out of options and wanting a child so badly. They even offered to pay for IVF for them. However, Matt and Nicole heard from God, and they knew their course of action – no more planning, charting, temping, timing.
Instead, going forward, they were going to continue to live life and believe they were going to conceive – praying every single day, thanking God for what they did not yet see.
So, for a year and half, that is what they did: nothing. Well, not really nothing. They were actively waiting, trusting, praying and believing.
And then, after a year and a half of this, June 15, 2013, Nicole was late getting her period. She took a pregnancy test (which she had done countless times before and never received a positive result) and it was POSITIVE! Nicole and Matt went to the Urgent Care Clinic and had a blood test done right away.
On June 16, 2013, Father’s Day (FATHER’S DAY!), the clinic called and told them the blood results came back.
God answers prayer – a baby is really and truly on the way!
As you can imagine, everyone who heard about this was ELATED! I work with Nicole, and our whole school had been wishing, hoping, praying, believing for Nicole and Matt’s miracle. It was surreal to see it unfolding right before our eyes. Everyone in Nicole and Matt’s life felt the same way. SO many people had been waiting and praying for this miracle!
We all loved watching Nicole’s miracle develop and become a reality right in front of us. Seeing her baby bump only made us squeal. On a daily basis. I’m not kidding. She even let us rub her belly.
On February 19, 2014, miracle baby Joshua David was born – all 8 lbs. 12 oz of him.
I share this story as a testimony to God’s faithfulness and an encouragement not just to anyone praying to have a baby (and Nicole truly had such a tender heart towards all of us struggling), but anyone praying for a miracle. Throughout her pregnancy, to encourage others, Nicole has been saying, ‘If God can get Nicole pregnant, He can ______________________ (fill in the blank).’
I know I speak for Nicole when I say, ‘Don’t give up hope. Keep doing what God tells you to do, even if it looks crazy to everyone else. He really, really does have a plan. And it’s just a matter of the right time for His plan to unfold.’
Miracles still happen. Even today. Yesterday, I saw it with my own eyes.
[This post was also linked up for Three-Word-Wednesday]