On Blogging and Insecurity
One would think that when you reach a certain age, you would outgrow your insecurity.
One would think.
It’s pretty much par for the course in junior high and high school, but I don’t know if insecurity always exits so neatly.
I first noticed this recent insecurity flare-up when I started to go to the Zumba class in my community. Well, it’s not really my community – it’s one town over; my community is like the slightly less-smart, less-talented, less-attractive younger sibling. Nevertheless, that was where it started.
First of all, I felt a little uncomfortable because #1, I didn’t know anyone, and #2, I didn’t know Zumba. I got over my awkwardness of Zumba soon enough and learned the routines, but it was the ‘not-knowing-anyone’ that threw me off balance. It wasn’t so much that many of these ladies seemed to know each other; it was more that they just seemed so exclusive about it. In the 2 years I’ve been going there, I can count on one hand the number of conversations I’ve had, and on two hands, the numbers of smiles exchanged. Their big diamond rings, their designer work-out clothes, their plastic surgeries…I began to feel a little…well, insecure.
Now seriously, it is only an hour class, and for sure, it wasn’t going to crush me. Big deal. But I didn’t like how I was feeling.
However, my most recent bout of insecurity touched me a little more personally – with blogging.
I’ve been pretty content blogging here at WordPress.com: I love the community, I love the other bloggers I’ve met, I like the platform. I’m not a big-time blogger (nor am I trying to be), so WP.com met my needs just fine. My sister, who is more of a big-time blogger, kept saying to me, “Katie, you should self-host and use WordPress.org. You could write for money, you can amp up your blog design…I can help you with all of that.”
I wasn’t sure. My biggest hesitation was that once you go from WP.com to WP.org, you lose the ‘community’ here – the ability to search for blogs with the same tags, your WP Reader, this little small corner of the pond in the Blogosphere. (This is not meant to be insulting to anyone of us on WP.com. I know there are millions of bloggers here – and many I would consider big-time bloggers; all I’m saying is that, to its credit, WP.com feels homey and small and tight-knit).
It just feels like there is room for everyone here on WP.com and – out there on your own? It’s easy to get lost in a tsunami of blogs.
I told her I wasn’t ready to leave WP.com; I really liked what I had and wasn’t feeling like I wanted to go anywhere. However, she did turn me on to SITS again (which I had known from my earlier blogging days). SITS is a fantastic blog support group that is huge, and it’s where a lot of the more independent, big-time bloggers hang out (and small-time, too. It’s for anyone). While WP.com provides the community for all those who blog here, SITS provides that for many bloggers who are self-hosted.
Well, in January, a new SITS Facebook group started, which I immediately joined. And that was where I started short-circuiting. All of the sudden, I was bombarded with tips and etiquette and rules like: using Google+ instead of Facebook, having ‘pinnable’ pictures in your posts, sharing 10 items on G+ for every personal post you share, asking questions on Facebook to get discussions going, putting your blog link in the ‘comment’ section instead of the ‘status’ section, following X number of people every day, growing your Google circles, tweeting 3x a day, attending link-up parties, commenting and following back, knowing the best times to post on Facebook, G+, Twitter, Pinterest…
Whaaaaat??? Where am I???
While this is sage advice from the experts (I mean that seriously, not sarcastically), I was feeling overwhelmed. Completely. What happened to just writing??? Instead of being a content guppy in my pond, I felt like I was thrown into the ocean and was drowning.
Completely disoriented.
Now, I wasn’t trying to be these bloggers overnight – or even at all – but I couldn’t help feeling very small. In some discussions, of course, numbers came up, and a blogger mentioned how she got 15,000 views in a month. Ummmm….I’ve been blogging seven months and I still haven’t hit that number in total.
So, as best as I could, I took their advice (as every good, type-A girl does): I cleaned up my Google + profile, I made a Twitter account, I started following and tweeting and pinning and linking up….
And that was when I started to feel insecure. I felt like my tweets and posts and pins and links were being buried under a mountain of all the other posts and pins and links out there. I joined in on some link-up parties, and I felt like the ugly, nerdy girl who was trying to weasel her way in with the popular cheerleaders. Now, I know this is all in my head – and I hardly think anyone is judging me or giving me a second thought, good or bad.
But maybe that was the point – not a second thought.
Up until now, I guess I felt like the people who were reading and following my blog were doing so because they actually liked it. Not because it was a gratuitous follow or an obligatory read because I ‘linked up’ or I had ‘followed’ them.
While joining with some of these groups, parties and link-ups have increased my numbers (largely due to social media follows, not necessarily readers), and while that does have a benefit as far as more exposure, more opportunities to network, etc. – instead of encouraging me, I felt more insecure. Was any of this interest in my blog legit or just something everyone does to grow their numbers? Was anybody even reading it?
Now, I realize that this insecurity is my own issue. There is nothing wrong with these bloggers, groups, forums, strategies, tips, etc. Everyone has been kind, helpful and supportive. But in groups so big, I guess what I miss is the connection. And it is hard to connect when there are so many out there. And your blog is just one of thousands. Or, more likely, millions.
And when you think about it….isn’t the root of most insecurities a lack of connection? A lack of feeling significant or important or noticed? Of feeling ‘not enough’ compared to those around you?
So, where does this leave me? What do I do with this junior-high-ish bout of insecurity?
Well, I’m not quitting Zumba, and I’m not quitting blogging. I will still tweet and join parties and link-up and pin and follow and grow my circles. But first, I can’t be obsessed about it. My blog is my blog, and it will do what it’s gonna do. And I want to enjoy what I have and the connections that I have. I don’t want to feel like I’m being dragged into the blogging equivalent of a get-rich-quick scheme and leave behind what I love about blogging in the first place – the writing and the connections. Numbers are fine, but if they don’t represent real people who I’m connected with or who have connected with me in some way…well…then, all this work for numbers and exposure really is overrated.
Second, all the activity, tips, suggestions, etc. – I’ll just see it for what it is: opening more doors for possible connections. And there is something in me that craves real connection, even in the Blogosphere – not just inflated numbers. Otherwise, it feels kind of hollow.
So, I think the answer to this blogging insecurity(and Zumba insecurity and whatever) is the answer for all insecurity – being content and thankful for what you have.
And who you are.
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It’s been a strange week for me. I’ve been battling my own insecurities and basically (not to be over-dramatic) feeling as if I am failing at personhood in general. That being said, thank you for this post. It was timely and refreshing. From one “not so big time blogger” to another, keep up the good work and write on. 🙂
Jaimie, I hope you get rid of those thoughts! You have been such a blessing, and I think so many times we put such weighty and unrealistic expectations on ourselves. I am certain that God is not that hard on us! I love your blog, I love what you do – and I pray those feelings go away from you soon!! Hugs, friend! Sending lots of love and affirmation your way 🙂
wow! Such a great post girlie! It’s funny you mentioned going from wp.com to wp.org because my hubby has been working on changing mine over. Only because I had started an old blog on blogger back in May and I didn’t like it…I liked wordpress better. But in order to link up both blogs (since I don’t use the old one anymore), he is having to change my .com to the .org. It has been a huge headache and until I read your blog, I didn’t realize thing wouldn’t be the same! YIKES!! Maybe the money he spent to pay for the .org was a waste :/ I like my community of wp.org. I didn’t want anything to change. eek!
It’s crazy, right? I don’t know too much of all those specifics…but I think you need to find a host site and then use the .org software? But yes, with .org, you definitely are out of the searchable WP blogs that we can look up on .com. My sister has a big readership so she wouldn’t need it, but for someone like me, most of my best followers/friends/connections came right from here – WP.com
I have an old blogger blog that is just out there inactive in the Blogosphere. Blogger really did nothing for interaction and community. Let me know how it goes. If you need some insight into WP.org, my sister can definitely help!
Isn’t it amazing that we never really, totally lose those self-confidence issues, we just (sometimes) get better at putting on a brave face? I had the SAME experience (with Zumba *and* blogging) I was so glad to find the community I’ve engaged in here to be so welcoming, non-judgey, and just down-right nice. It’s certainly made specific struggles in my life seem much less lonely!
It’s crazy, right? When do we outgrow this??? lol But yes, I think the WP.com community has been amazing… so accepting and supportive…no sense of the ‘popular’ kids looking down on the ‘nerds’, lol.. Thanks so much for coming by! 🙂
Your name only gives me the link to your gravatar. Can you send me the link to your blog? I would love to read it!
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I totally get this. I love the WordPress blog community. I feel like I almost know people on here even though I don’t know what they look like and often don’t know their real names. But sometimes I feel like I should be doing more. If I’m going to blog, shouldn’t I be writing a great blog? Bigger, better, shinier? More views and more followers? That’s probably my slightly competitive side. I’m always comparing myself with others. But I think what stops me from doing that is the realisation that I don’t blog for pride or self satisfaction. It’s not to feel like I’m doing something great or to the best of my ability. I blog for comfort and as a realise and to feel less alone. I think if I started to feel like I had to write in a certain way or pin or tag a certain number of times each post I’d suddenly feel self conscious and start worrying about whether I was writing what other people want to read. For me blogging is about writing what I have to get out of my head. If I start writing for others then the benefit of the blog will be lost and it will be just like a job. Thankfully in the word press community people don’t seem to mind reading my brain dump ranting posts!
That’s such a good point. I do think it is so important to be true to how and why you blog and never compromise that for numbers. It’s funny, I just read another blog today from a woman who has been blogging for 5 years, and her advice was, ‘If you don’t have to blog for $, don’t.’ And that caught me off guard, b/c I thought making $ was sort of a goal. But it made sense – it becomes less about you and your voice and what you want to write about – and I think the same holds true when your numbers grow.
It has definitely made me feel like I don’;t measure up or I start questioning my voice and writing…and I don’t like that. If I have a handful of readers who are engaged, that is better than high numbers.
I love that you use your blog to get thoughts out of your head. That is the beauty of it- it can be anything you want it to be. And I love yours- so keep doing what you are doing! 🙂
I was laughing as I read this post…I just joined SITS as well and this is the very same conversation I’ve been having with my husband all week! “How the heck to they post so much?! How can they keep up with all of this?! How can I get anything else done AND keep up with all of them?!” Lol! Thank you for helping me to put it all back into perspective! 🙂
It’s crazy, right??? I’m a f/t teacher – which absorbs by day-life and more. And then there’s family and church and just having a life. I was starting to feel stressed by all of this – and it should not be this way! I def. see the value in all of their tips – but not everyone’s life looks the same. I’ve just resolved to do what I can. I was getting a little frustrated by all the ‘follows’ and ‘follow-backs’ – b/c I was just bombarded w/ so many blogs to interact with…where to start? But I think my happy medium is to just do all the follow/follow backs – but invest in (I mean, reading, commenting, etc) the blogs I feel some kind of connection with. That’s what I hope others would do with mine!
Right now, I don’t make $ from it, so it should just be something to enjoy! Looking forward to keeping up with yours, Suzanne! 🙂
I understand where your sister is coming from, trying to encourage you to put your writing out there more- I love your writing, Kate, you are truly gifted! You will be a blessing to readers no matter which avenue you choose to pursue!
You are so sweet, Amy. Thank you for the encouragement. It is a fine line b/t writing for yourself and wanting others to see your writing. At least for me, I have to write for me first – and just hope that others will want to come along! Hoping things are well be you!!! xo
Kate, To me, blogging takes many shapes for many people. We bear our souls, lives and personal thoughts to the world via our posts. I think all of us feel insecure at one point or another in our blogging journey. I can assure you that others look at you and are intimidated by your talents, skills and bravery. I try to remember that when I’m in an intimidating situation. It’s kind of my own reality check.- It might work for you too.
Thanks, Wendi, for your wisdom! I really do love getting some insight from experienced bloggers! My biggest realization is that I really just need to be true to myself and my voice when I blog…and let the rest fall where it will. Thank you so much for stopping by! 🙂
Oh bless you, it’s quite weird to read someone else writing what you are thinking (except the WP thing which I don’t know anything about). I’m impressed that you still Zumba, I went to Pilates once and never went back. I completely get the whole “how can I keep up with that” thing. I think I’ve decided I’m not going to try, I’m going to do my thing as see what happens.
On a a very positive note every single craft blogger I have had contact with directly, by comment or email has been absolutely and completely lovely, generous and supportive. These people don’t know me at all and get they reply, give advice, it kind of blows me away really.
I have a friend who was moaning on fb, she has just embarked on a huge career change and had had an awful week, I will send you the same quote I sent her. Courage does not always roar, sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying “I will try again tomorrow”. If it helps great, if not no worries.
I’m so glad you found me, Julie! Thanks for coming by and for sharing your thoughts -and the quotation! I love it! It’s just not quitting! That is courageous! I agree, I think it is good to just do your thing, do what you can, and just let the rest happen. Blogging (at least if it is not your career – it’s not mine) SHOULD NOT BE STRESSFUL!!! Not that it is not hard work, but it should still be enjoyable, especially if it is a hobby!
I agree, everyone has been so kind and helpful. Wonderfully. But I think that some blogs are so big that they can’t really interact as much – and I don’t think I would ever want to get so big that I would lose that..
I’ll be by to check out your blog! Thank you so much for coming by 🙂
Well I just found your blog from the link party @SitsGirls and I’m glad I did. I also used to blog, then stopped, and have recently come back from a different angle and I think blogging is something that makes us feel good because it’s a creative outlet, but it’s also something that you can catch yourself wondering OFTEN Why you should be doing it, are you affecting anyone, is there a point to it. I think there is. All creativity leads somewhere. I think it’s usually somewhere positive. Keep on keepin on! I’ll be following and reading along. I like that you’re so honest and real. Happy Saturday!!
Thanks so much, Jessica! It’s connections like this that really make it worth while! I have asked myself those same questions….why bother? But I conclude the same thing. I love the creative outlet, and I do it b/c I HAVE to, I’m compelled to. I love it if others ‘come along’ but mostly, it is something I feel driven to do b/c I want to. I have found that good, old-fashioned reading others’ blogs and commenting has been the best connection and grows your blog authentically, not with hollow numbers. Sometimes SITS feels so big that it is hit or miss to find a blog you ‘connect’ with, but occasionally, you make that ‘connection’ – and you see the role that the follows/tweets/sharing played in it.
Thank you again for coming by! I’ll definitely be by to check out yours 🙂
I can totally relate to this post – and I actually wrote about it recently as well. When I started blogging, it was really just about the writing and creating an outlet to express myself. Then I started learning more about blogging through SITS and such, and I realized I have so much to learn, and I should do all of these things to grow my following, and I need to comment on other blogs, and focus on photography and on and on and on …
All I can say is you are not alone. And even outside of blogging, there are moments I get insecure. I think I get in the habit of comparing myself. Who knows if this will ever go away, but it certainly makes for an interesting debate in my mind. Stopping by from SITS!
Thanks for coming by, Kerry! I am glad to see that I am not alone! Some of those other women just seem to have it all together – blogging and otherwise – but I think that inaccurate public image comes with all social media, online outlets… For a few moments, it really made me question my voice, question my blog…but I saw pretty quickly that was a dead-end, futile road to go down. Right now, blogging is my favorite hobby; it’s not my life or my income – so, I do the best I can. But I know when I start feeling ‘that feeling’ – like I described in my blog – I need to pull back and just go back to what is ‘me’. The blog is mostly for me.
Thanks for coming by, Kerry! I am glad we connected through SITS!
“Numbers are fine, but if they don’t represent real people who I’m connected with or who have connected with me in some way…well…then, all this work for numbers and exposure really is overrated.”
Katie, I think you answered most of your own questions with that one sentence. Would you rather have three close friends or a hundred superficial relationships?
I’ve been blogging for almost four years. In the past twelve months, my subscribers have increased by more than ten thousand, yet the number of views and comments has stayed the same, or even gone down. So what do the statistics mean? I have no idea. There’s a small group of people I can count on to read what I write, just as they can count on me to read their work. I’m completely inept at self-promotion, so I’ll never be a big-time successful blogger. For me, it’s about working hard at being a better writer and, as you said so well, connecting with real people.
I hope you don’t give up. I also hope you never completely lose the insecurity — it helps to keep us humble, and helps us avoid taking ourselves too seriously.
Thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. This kind of conversation is what I love about blogging. If anything, this has caused me to come back to why I blog. I did answer that question for myself in another post somewhere, but it really helps to know why I do this, especially when times like this come up, and it becomes overwhelming. My reasons are the same as yours – b/c I love to write and I love connection with other people. That is the satisfying part. Even when I don’t even get the connection or response to a post, it is still about the writing for me, too. And as a blogger ( and probably as a human, too), the bottom line is to be true to who you are and be the best version of yourself.
I so appreciate you coming by and sharing your thoughts. Truly made my day! 🙂
(And I love your thoughts about insecurity…so true. Humility is huge. Keeps us real. Thank you again.)
Oh, how I feel you!
Pile this on top of being a health and fitness blogger, where everything you do is potentially scrutinized.. and SHE is running this fast and SHE is lifting this much and I thought I was eating healthily, but SHE is doing that instead of this. Oh my, it gets overwhelming!
And yes, I wonder how people have time to pin, tweet, share, engage, comment, blog daily, and balance real lives? Yikes. So much to learn.
My biggest advice in the blogging world is just do YOU. You get out of blogging what you put into it. I like Twitter as my main social networking place, but attempt to post to FB daily and Google+ is so out of my league, I only happen to visit it if someone adds me.. not quite ready to venture there yet. 🙂
Keep doing what you love and have fun!
It’s all so much, isn’t it??? I can’t imagine adding in the whole fitness/health aspect! Geez! It is hard to balance, but I just have to tell myself, at this point, this is my hobby (which I love), but I have a f/t job. I can’t engage like someone else who is home all day. I just do what I can, and that has been freeing. I pop in on social media when I can – and really, there’s no real rhythm…it depends on the day. I think Twitter and FB has been the most effective. My posts aren’t really ‘pinworthy’ – not that kind of blogger, I guess – and G+ hasn’t really don’t much, although I like to read what I find on there.
I love your advice – ‘just do you.’ Perfect. I sorted out a few months ago why I blog, and as long as I keep that in mind, I get grounded again.
Thank you so much for coming by and commenting. Means so much!
I used to have a large following on my blog . . . then I stopped blogging for 4 years. I recently picked it back up, but have no followers. Like you, I read all the blogging tips on how to gain followers, and am a bit overwhelmed. What I really want to find are bloggers who have things in common with me. That is proving to be the challenge.
It’s a double-edged sword, isn’t it? We love the writing/creative part- but w/o the interaction/followers – it feels like it is missing something, doesn’t it?? WordPress.com (com, not org) has been great to find a little group of like-bloggers. People find you based on how you tag your posts and you find them the same way. With SITS, it is much harder to find like-minded bloggers b/c it’s all mixed in together and no real way to search for ones that pertain to you. It’s hit or miss. But WP.com has been great. I blogged on blogspot for almost 2 years and had a total of 46 followers (pre-social media, mind you) – and with WP (and not really even using social media), I had about 200 ‘real’ followers (not social media followers) in about 6 months. Now of course, not all of them read regularly, but there’s def. a little group that I consistently connect with.
The link parties help a little, so do the other groups. I think Twitter is good b/c you can search using the hashtags and find like blogs …then, it’s just consistent interaction on their blog and when they see you around often, usually they will check you out.
I’m not expert AT ALL, and I apologize if this response was more than you are looking for! All the best!! Thank you so much for coming by!
Blogging can definitely be overwhelming and at one point I took a long, hard break. I do enjoy it though and try not to pressure myself too much. There are tons of bigger, better bloggers but I have a small community of online friends.
I was just reading The Good Mother Myth last night and it said that being a new mom mom sends you right back to middle school. Where we try to justify our insecurities by tearing one another down or comparing ourselves to another mom who seems to have it together, just like in middle school. I think that’s how I’ve felt as a new blogger too, although I’ve been blogging for over a year, I still think I’m new cause I don’t have record-breaking page views or a household blog name yet. I compared myself to others but if I’m going to keep blogging as a hobby, I have to do what feels right for me.
Great post! Stopping by from SITS!
Thanks so much for coming by and sharing! I think most insecurities send us back to middle school! I love what you said – about needing to do what feels right to you. I kind of felt like I was getting swept into this SITS tidal wave (not their fault,just how I feel) – and I felt myself almost trying to act and sound like these other bloggers …and I felt like, even in that short time, I was losing my own voice.
I think you are right…we tend to measure ourselves by how big we are or our followers – but you said it perfectly – ‘a small community of online friends.’ Perfect. It’s what I love. And SITS has opened up a few doors for that…but it is SO big, hard to find those kindred spirits. But when you do, it makes it all worth it.
Thanks so much for coming by and sharing! 🙂
I do what fits me and my blog. What works for one, doe snot always work for others
That’s exactly true…we all have to do what fits in with our lifestyles and goals. Sometimes, it takes me a while to get to that conclusion – I usually take the long way there! Thank you for coming by! 🙂
What a great post! I have just started blogging and have found myself very insecure at times. I am continuing writing about what I want to though, and hope you do too!
I think that is the only way to do it. It has to come from who you are, what is authentic and true to you. There will always be someone who connects with that…maybe not as many as others, but I would definitely rather have the real connections than the numbers. I hope you will keep writing about you want to, too! No other way!
Thanks so much for coming by! 🙂
I hadn’t even thought about missing the wordpress.com community until I switched! I definitely noticed the lack of readers coming through from wordpress, but I’ve found other ways of finding new readers, mostly through twitter and other blogging friends. I also love the freedom of managing my own blog enough that I think it’s worth it 🙂 Definitely a scary transition to make, but there’s great advice online that helped me through.
Thanks for sharing your experience! I appreciate that insight. I think, once I’ve been at this a year…and I’m sort of hooked in again with SITS…so, I guess I’ll see where the most connections are coming from? If I’m seeing equal or better – the time may come to branch out. I’m definitely scared of that…but thanks for sharing how it worked for you. That is encouraging!
Thank you for coming by! 🙂
This is about how I feel all the time.
For a while I get gung ho and really go all out with the tweeting/pinning/+ing/etc.
Then I get burned out.
Then I decide I want to be a ‘serious’ blogger and start again.
I’m still looking for a balance. Trying to grow, but also enjoying the ride. Hopefully I’ll find it.
Balance. That’s a good word. I even debated doing this ‘comment love’ b/c I was scared I couldn’t keep up. There are so many benefits to reaching out and networking…but on some levels, if not ‘balanced’ – it can really suck the love of blogging right out of it. I’ve tried to do what I can do…but if it is becoming a chore, I need to scale back. I work f/t so…I just can’t be one of those bloggers who do this for 8 hrs a day. And I’m learning to be OK with that.
Thanks you so much for coming by! Loved your blog!
I’m right there with you on feeling overwhelmed with what the blogging experts say about social media. Sometimes a few days after a post, I think, hmm, did I remember to share on google+ and add all relevant hashtags. So I’ve decided I’m not going to stress. I blog because I like it and I don’t want it to become a job. Luckily I have a personal WP programmer, aka my husband, who helps me out a lot with figuring out everything! – SITS love
Yes, it definitely takes the love out of it! And like you, it’s not my job…so, if it starts to become ‘not fun’, then I don’t ‘need’ to do it! I blog b/c I love. Sure, I want readers, but I read great advice somewhere that stuck with me: ‘Don’t peak too early.’ Better to build a following slowly, w/ people who really want to read your blog! Thanks so much for coming by! 🙂
Wow you hit the nail on the head. I am feeling so overwhelmed with all the “stuff you have to do”. For me blogging was just like it was for you, writing and having a few people read and connect. Then it snowballed into EVERYTHING else. Now I have a facebook, a pinterest, a google+, twitter, link parties…. and so on but no one that actually connects. Just numbers. You are not alone 🙂
It’s crazy, right? It does seem like a lot of work, for not necessarily a lot of pay off. I kind of like the old-fashioned way – read other people’s blogs, comment, maybe they will visit back. But Ive found the more interactive I am on the blogs I really like is a natural connection (b/c obviously, we care about the same thing!) There is value to SM, but I just can’t obsess with it. Glad I’m not the only one! 🙂
I’m so glad you commented on my blog from SITS Blogging this week because then I got to come find you and read this post! Insecurity is rooted in comparison and it’s when we can release ourselves from that and just focus on what we’ve been designed by God to do and be that we experience freedom. You don’t have to be like everyone else or do everything all the other bloggers are doing. You just have to tell your story, give your message, and pray that God leads the people who need to read it to your blog. I hope you’re a bit more encouraged to be uniquely you!
Thanks so much for your sincere comments, LeeAnn. It is so true. I just heard a sermon by Andy Stanley this morning before church about that very thing (comparisons). He basically summed it up by saying ‘What you have is less important that what you do with what you have.’ God has given each of us what He wants us to have – including our voice, our reach, our influence…no use comparing, b/c what He has given me is specifically designed for what He wants me to do – and vice versa for everyone. Very freeing when we realize this!
Thanks so much for adding your voice of encouragement for my insecure moments! 🙂
How insecure can you really be if you are able to talk so much about it? Insecurity is fear, so how can one even blog with feelings of insecurity?
I think we all have feelings of fear and insecurity. But we grow as we push through them and act anyway!